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EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Tue, 18/02/2025 00:19 (10 Minutes ago)
	Sending! Birthday plush please <3 [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Mon, 17/02/2025 23:49 (40 Minutes ago)
	Aaaa your art is soo cute 🥺 Here's my self-insert(the one on the left) if he catches your eye, there's also more references in his gallery :3 [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Mon, 17/02/2025 23:20 (1 Hour ago)
	??? The person above apparently didn't send a plushie so I'll send mine to serif Teddiursa or Seviper please ^^ [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Mon, 17/02/2025 16:21 (8 Hours ago)
	Welcome! ^⁠ᴗ^ [Read more]

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Posted: Mon, 17/02/2025 04:36 (19 Hours ago)

"I just want to go out and be an average human ffs..."

You are an average human. In my opinion it actually is a fact that every human fits first and foremost as the definition of average human before any other labels ^^
The reactions of people around you can indicate both their lack of knowledge on the subject or just their personality traits and how they think is best to react to the situation. It indicates nothing about you because you're not what people perceive you as. It does not indicate you don't fit as "average human"

This is why I think it's so important to learn from other LGBTQIA+ experiences. We have never gathered a community to feel "special" like some people like to claim, but to learn from those who go through the things we do too. My experience with connecting with other people from the community has been very positive because they all had at least basic knowledge of what is a trans person (sometimes maybe even more than I had, tbh), and instead of treating me like a big deal they just welcomed me as an average human. I'm very sorry you've had negative experiences with how people reacted to your identity/orientation but remaining indifferent to it is letting stigma and ignorance sink in. I can't deduct anything from you, but be careful and make sure this isn't affecting how you see yourself, too. As Tord said, it's alright to be indifferent if that's what you chose to, but do be mindful as it can affect others and also yourself

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Posted: Mon, 17/02/2025 02:36 (21 Hours ago)

Ok so, I've been procrastinating the research about trans women in sports (I don't care about sports so much so I always got lazy) but since it's the topic right now I've spent a bit of time in it, I'll leave below some interesting quotes from my research and their sources

Quote"My strength has decreased significantly," she said. "When I first started running again after having surgery, I fell on my face a couple of times because, in my head, my legs could move that fast, but my body was telling me it couldn't. I kind of had to retrain myself."

An experience of a trans athlete after gender-affirming surgery, from CBC

Quote"So the question isn't 'do trans women have advantages?' - but instead, 'can trans women and women compete against one another in meaningful competition?"[...]
"Tucker: The point of the women's category is to exclude male advantage, which comes as a result of testosterone.

Until it can be shown that that advantage doesn't persist or exist in trans women, then I would say that there's no basis to allow trans women in.

The point of all that is that if there were no evidence at all, I would say that an exclusion policy would be the prudent start point.

However, we do have evidence - we have 13 studies that show significant retained advantage. We have a number of other studies of males with lower testosterone levels with prostate cancer, we know what happens with training, and so I think collectively the picture is quite strong to suggest that advantages are retained."[...]
"So for instance, World Athletics has said that once transgender women reduce testosterone for 12 months, they should be allowed in. That's not a perfect policy - nobody is saying it is - but World Athletics has said this is the best we can do with the available science.

That I think is a more reasonable approach than either saying there shouldn't be any restrictions on trans women or we shouldn't let trans women in until we know for certain."[...]
"When we separate into categories, we don't necessarily eliminate advantages, but we reduce them to the point where anyone who is in the category can enjoy meaningful competition with anyone else in the category.
What I would suggest is that it is impossible to maximise inclusion, maximise fairness, maximise safety in sport, all three of those, without some impact on the other.

If we maximise inclusion, it does come at some cost to fairness and safety. But I think that we can come up with solutions which, while they may not maximise any one of these three parameters, comes pretty close to maximising all three, and that none of these three important parameters - inclusion, safety and fairness - are overly impacted."[...]

Some of the important points made by sports scientists, interviewed by BBC

Quote"[...]this notion overlooks the fact that class and money are often responsible for competitive advantages in sports (i.e., access to private coaching, better facilities, better sports equipment, and specialized training)."
"Anti-trans sports bans subject all women and girls to accusations of being “too masculine” or “too good” at their sport to be a “real” woman or girl. Some require women and girls to verify their gender through sex testing, even proposing invasive and traumatic medical examinations. There’s actually a long, ugly history of this. And these tests especially harm women and girls who fall outside stereotypical notions of womanhood, who are intersex, or Black and brown, because they don’t conform to white standards of femininity."

From nwlc
Honestly? This one was my favorite to read from the three of them. Seeing the introduction with the feminism/fake feminism was convincing me to drop this one, but I'm glad I've actually read through it. There are multiple links to other very important information in the site itself, and the way it's so clear from the articles how excluding transfem athletes also makes cis athletes be targeted and oftentimes harassed for not meeting the "desired femininity standards" or whatever you'd call it. It really takes me back to so many awful comments I saw about Imane Khelif, to the point I can remember her name, even having awful memory and not caring about sports in the slightest.

You see, yes, male puberty does give physical advantages compared to how female puberty develops the body, but the topic in question is trans females in sports. Gender-affirmative care is important so a transgender person can not only "feed their individualism and look a certain desirable way", but is also an important step for integration in society, which also brings me to the topic of trans men in sports :)

QuoteBeing able to compete against other boys can be affirming and formative even before an athlete is ready to come out as trans to the rest of the world. Samuel C. didn’t transition until he was 27, but he says his experiences competing on boys’ teams as a kid in Michigan helped him feel aligned with his gender even when the world around him didn’t see him as a boy.

From insidehook. This brings a very important point and does not focus solely in elite sports, it emphasizes how sports and gender-affirmative care are important in socialization and development

Lastly, here's a list of different cultures that recognize more than two genders. Having bigger problems does not mean neglecting other's needs is necessary, as survival is not the very only thing a human is capable of pursuing and not the only of human's needs and developed abilities (although it is the most important one for sure haha).

Bigotry
stubborn and complete intolerance of any creed, belief, or opinion that differs from one's own.
Synonyms: narrow-mindedness, discrimination, bias

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Posted: Sun, 16/02/2025 06:49 (1 Day ago)

Alright since yapping is welcome let me yap about swimwear real quick
My brother has invited me and my sister to his house tomorrow so it's pool day yeeey and I'd like to recommend anyone who it may interest.. Swimsuits? Not the basic ones (who thought having exposed inner thighs is a good idea ew ew worst experience ever personally) idk if those have a special/different name, but mine looks quite like this one and having the shorts there help SO. MUCH. Both sensorially and with dysphoria. Bringing something to wear on top of it is also super great, I dislike tight clothing so I loove wearing a big shirt on top of it once I'm out of the pool. Going to feeling like a piece of trash in bikinis to feeling cute and comfortable in my swimwear was such a huge improvement to me I can't recommend this thing enough :3

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Posted: Sat, 15/02/2025 05:16 (2 Days ago)

"to the closeted peeps, what do you hope for? support? to be out and feel safe one day? that being lgbtqia+ shouldn't matter, in a good way?"

I've been closeted mostly because of my mother, she has narcissistic traits and it's totally a tendency of hers to use things against me when I'm at my worst. Giving her any info about what's going on in my life is just pretty much giving her fuel to set me on fire later on :p I've thought about it many times and even though it really bothers me to be misgendered constantly it's not really worth it to uncloset before I'm independent. Sometimes it feels like my main life goal is to avoid her
The "you look like a boy" comments are always so funny tho 🤭 bet my parents wouldn't give so much gender-affirming comments if they actually knew

I have told my sister so far and she was accepting. She seems a bit confused by a lot of things in the LGBTQIA+ community and I really wish I was more patient and knowledgeable to explain things to her but y'know... I'm not the gender encyclopedia and google is right there. I also want to tell my brother, since he's gay, and a really easy-going person. But I've avoided using masc pronouns irl because I fear I/the people that know it might start using them in front of who's not supposed to know at the time so.. It just feels a little pointless? (I've used masc pronouns once in front of my conservative uncle and freaked out internally so bad :'D but it was because we were playing videogames and I was playing with a male character. He seemed to not notice but I was so nervous in the moment 😭) My brother, surprisingly, is the least sexist person from my family tho, and I can feel how my gender seems to not affect the way he perceives me. I'd of course rather not be misgendered, but being around him gives me much comfort nonetheless ^^
And then there's also my cousin that pulled me out of the closet. They just asked me "are you gay?" and I'm physically unable to lie and started laughing. I ended up just spilling it out, but it's probably the person I'll ever feel the most comfortable to personally talk about this because they're also trans :) later on they've asked me for advice on their gender identity (they're really young so of course it's confusing). This probably means my aunt knows I'm trans too, but she's cool I'm actually fine with that

And that last option of what to hope for sounds good enough actually. I've never really understood why people make such a fuss over it anyways

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EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Thu, 13/02/2025 23:22 (4 Days ago)
	Sending! Seviper or teddiursa please ty <3 [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Wed, 12/02/2025 22:24 (5 Days ago)
	Sending <3 [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Tue, 11/02/2025 16:43 (6 Days ago)
	Sending! [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Tue, 11/02/2025 00:11 (7 Days ago)
	Sending! [Read more]

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Posted: Mon, 10/02/2025 21:08 (7 Days ago)

Hi! I want a doodle! 💚
·What kind of doodle?: 2 characters in the keychain type of doodle please!
·Payment:100 nuggets + 500k PD tip
·Character: my OC Camille and Jamil Viper from Twisted Wonderland
·Refs: my oc, he should be without the mask
Jamil, and his chibi version which might be a better ref for the style in question
·Other: feel free to remove details from the outfits and make them as simple as you want cuz I know there's really a lot, the beads can be any color you think fits better for them, including a bell or maybe a bell-shaped bead somewhere would fit well!

Edit: I realised some of the picture links weren't working but I've just replaced them!

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EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Mon, 10/02/2025 04:35 (7 Days ago)
	Sending :3 [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Mon, 10/02/2025 02:19 (7 Days ago)
	Sending ^^ [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Mon, 10/02/2025 01:10 (7 Days ago)
	Shiny furret! [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Mon, 10/02/2025 01:05 (7 Days ago)
	Sending! <3 [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Mon, 10/02/2025 00:30 (7 Days ago)
	Sending :3 [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Sat, 08/02/2025 23:48 (9 Days ago)
	Sending <3 [Read more]

EeveeLover ONLINE Forum Posts: 138	Posted: Thu, 06/02/2025 20:23 (11 Days ago)
	@Celebier tysm!! The slot was gone faster than a bullet XD but I plan on keeping the slots to open at previously scheduled times like this one was [Read more]

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